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Soar

Soaring EagleSeth Godin is brilliant. I’m sharing – with Seth’s permission – observations from his latest work, Icarus Deception (free PDF available online):

They told you to get your résumé in order, to punch your ticket, to fit in, and to follow instructions. They told you to swallow your pride, not to follow your dream.

They promised trinkets and prizes and possibly riches if you would just suck it up and be part of the system, if you would merely do what you were told and conform.

They sold you debt and self-storage and reality TV shows. They sold your daughters and sons, too. All in exchange for what would happen later, when it was your turn.

It’s your turn.

This isn’t a manifesto for other people. This is a manifesto for you. It’s a manifesto for anyone who has been overlooked or brainwashed or seduced into being invisible.

A revolution is here, our revolution, and it is shining a light on what we’ve known deep down for a long time—you are capable of making a difference, of being bold, and of changing more than you are willing to admit.

He goes on to very eloquently explain through analogy, using the myth about Icarus, how society has altered the myth by leaving out the second part of Icarus’s father’s instructions. He told him not to fly too close to the sun, AND he told him not to fly too low, too close to the sea, because the water would ruin the lift in his wings.

Seth’s point: We’ve been conditioned to NOT speak up, stand out, or rock the boat.

The danger: We’re flying too low. We’re settling for too little. We’re shortchanging ourselves. And by staying in our comfort zone, we’re shortchanging everyone whose lives we touch or could touch.

The reality: Whose comfort zone is it, anyway? Is it yours, or is it one you’ve adopted?

The strategy: Fly higher. Dry your wings. Soar.

The result: Success. Value. Happiness.

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BE the Fish

One of my brilliant nephews led me to a few amazing sites that I thought you might like.

In the last hour that I’ve been exploring them, I’ve come across a treasure trove of inspiration, templates to do thing differently, and ways to see things from a new perspective and get that “aha!!” that we all look for. (I know, I just ended a sentence with a preposition — I’m exploring my wild side again! 🙂 Woo hoo! )

The first stop on our tour is at http://zenhabits.net/control/. Here you’ll see how letting go of the illusion of control and learning from fish how to live in and embrace the chaos that surrounds us. You’ll want to BE the fish. Honestly, it’s an amazing little piece. (It also made me think of Dorrie’s sage advice from “Finding Nemo” fame: “Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming.”)

I absolutely loved it and hope you do, too. It’s a quick read, with a light and bouncy, energizing flavour that leaves a slow, contemplative aftertaste.

Like the girl at the end of the recent Disneyworld TV advert, I’m jumping up and down just a little as I squeal, “I’m SO excited!!”

Happy Friday!

Image: Simon Howden / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

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Less about self-help and more about SELF





I have an addiction to books.  I know, I could be addicted to a lot worse.  The manifestation of this addiction is problematic in two ways:

1)    I BUY all the books I read. (Library? What library?)  This affects my finances and my storage issues.

2)    I’m particularly addicted to self-help books.

I could open my own self-help bookstore…

My friend Kirby visited recently.  He’s always intrigued by new little collections of books that sprout up around my house.  The latest one was sitting unsuspectingly, minding its own business, on my kitchen breakfast bar/counter.

He spotted them.  As soon as I followed his gaze and looked at the expression on his face, I knew what was next.

KIRBY: [with sarcastic, yet loving, tone] “Oh, good!!  You’re discovering your strengths.  [picks up another one off the pile] And you’re learning about how to make messages stick.  You KNOW you could’ve written that one, darling.  I’m so glad you have all these books to HELP you.”

ME: “I know, I know.  I need to stay out of the self-help section.  I keep thinking there’s something else I need to learn that can help me.”

And there it was.  An “aha” moment that could grace the pages of O Magazine.

I’m the Advice Girl.  I’m a go-to person for advice.  It’s a shame I don’t follow my own.

I’m the Idea Girl.  I have GREAT ideas.  I’m just really bad at the follow-through where I actually make things happen, or finish something I’ve started.

And I’m the Excuse Girl.  I’ve got a million of ‘em.  Too tired.  Not pretty enough. Not enough time.  Not thin enough.  No one will read my books (the four I started eight or ten years ago and haven’t finished).  It’s just not an attainable goal.

What I realized is that I need to be The Nike Girl.  The “Just Do It” Girl.  I don’t need to learn any more about my strengths.  I know what they are.  And I know I have them.  And I know I have everything I need (see kaleidoscope explanation in previous blog post).  And now I know for sure (woo hoo – ANOTHER possible O Magazine page!) that I don’t need to HELP my self.  I just need to BE my self.  My complete self, whose very next task is to practice what I preach.

I’m not gonna lie to you.  It’s kinda scary.  If I practice what I preach, how far will it take me?


Photo: Self-Help – I Can’t Help Myself – Week 14 by wmpe2000

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ME with my own TV show??





Quite possibly…

I FINALLY did something other than talk about having my own TV show. Today I uploaded an entry to the “W” channel website. W is looking for a new expert. And that expert could be me, with your help.

Once the good folks at W verify my entry and post it live, you’ll be able to go to the W website and “rate the recruits” for the W Expert contest.

Here’s the URL: http://experts.wnetwork.com/Main.aspx

You can vote until March 8th at 10 a.m. The video should be up within the next few days.

The judges will take into consideration website user comments and ratings when making their decision about the Final 10.

I invite you to visit the site and rate my entry (hopefully with a high score!). And if you have any friends or family who’d like to have a say about new programs, let them know about the contest so that they can rate the recruits, too.

Special thanks to Dan and Mike for their skills and willingness to help “direct and produce” the amateur video for my entry!!

Here’s why I should be a W Expert:

Life can be challenging and stressful. As a W Expert, I’ll show you how to see and do things differently, make new choices and get the outcomes you want. It doesn’t have to be difficult. You have everything you need. I’ll help you see it, believe it and live it.

Like Thomas Edison said, “If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves.”

Join me… live the life you want, and astound yourself.


Artist: BooDilly

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