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The Measure of a Woman

I just finished a really good business book by Guy Kawasaki – Rules for Revolutionaries. I was drawn to this book because I can’t let go of my desire to change the world – if only “lille bit by lille bit” (see early posts for the back story). I love his books because they extend beyond the boardroom and engineering lab. There are applications for his theories and approaches in all walks of life. I’ve learned a lot from Guy. (NOTE: I highly recommend his new book, Enchantment – it is truly a must-read!!)

One of the things Guy included in Rules for Revolutionaries is a reference to a Nike ad that focused on women. I read and re-read it, loving it more each time. Here it is:

“A woman is often measured by the things she cannot control. She is measured by the way her body curves and doesn’t curve. By where she is flat or straight or round. She is measured by 36-24-36 and inches and ages and numbers. By all the outside things that don’t ever add up to who she is on the inside. And so if a woman is to be measured, let her be measured by the things she can control. By who she is and who she is trying to become because as every woman knows, measurements are only statistics, and statistics lie.”

animated frame stick figure portrait of author

My wish is that the standards by which human beings are measured someday become just that: standard. Consistent across the board. The same for men and women, regardless of the body we were born into, and in which we carry our spirit, hopes, dreams, goals, love and respect.

Wouldn’t it be great if we were all measured by who we are, who we are trying to become, and who we are on the inside?

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Lost and Found

I found this list of rules I developed in a file that I clearly haven’t opened for some time. The page is dated 1997. That shocked me. Looks like I’ve had these tidbits of wisdom for 14 years without realizing it.

Over the past few years, I’ve continuously gone back to the drawing board to ask questions about myself, to figure out what’s important, to know my values and how I want to live my life. I would’ve saved so much time and angst if I’d posted these rules in 1997 and referred to them daily.

The good news is two-fold:
1. Now that I’ve found The Rules again, I’m keeping them front and centre for reference as I move forward, and
2. It’s worth doing a decluttering, archeological dig in your own home – I’m motivated to keep purging the rest of my files to see what other gems I can uncover!

Stay tuned…

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Less about self-help and more about SELF





I have an addiction to books.  I know, I could be addicted to a lot worse.  The manifestation of this addiction is problematic in two ways:

1)    I BUY all the books I read. (Library? What library?)  This affects my finances and my storage issues.

2)    I’m particularly addicted to self-help books.

I could open my own self-help bookstore…

My friend Kirby visited recently.  He’s always intrigued by new little collections of books that sprout up around my house.  The latest one was sitting unsuspectingly, minding its own business, on my kitchen breakfast bar/counter.

He spotted them.  As soon as I followed his gaze and looked at the expression on his face, I knew what was next.

KIRBY: [with sarcastic, yet loving, tone] “Oh, good!!  You’re discovering your strengths.  [picks up another one off the pile] And you’re learning about how to make messages stick.  You KNOW you could’ve written that one, darling.  I’m so glad you have all these books to HELP you.”

ME: “I know, I know.  I need to stay out of the self-help section.  I keep thinking there’s something else I need to learn that can help me.”

And there it was.  An “aha” moment that could grace the pages of O Magazine.

I’m the Advice Girl.  I’m a go-to person for advice.  It’s a shame I don’t follow my own.

I’m the Idea Girl.  I have GREAT ideas.  I’m just really bad at the follow-through where I actually make things happen, or finish something I’ve started.

And I’m the Excuse Girl.  I’ve got a million of ‘em.  Too tired.  Not pretty enough. Not enough time.  Not thin enough.  No one will read my books (the four I started eight or ten years ago and haven’t finished).  It’s just not an attainable goal.

What I realized is that I need to be The Nike Girl.  The “Just Do It” Girl.  I don’t need to learn any more about my strengths.  I know what they are.  And I know I have them.  And I know I have everything I need (see kaleidoscope explanation in previous blog post).  And now I know for sure (woo hoo – ANOTHER possible O Magazine page!) that I don’t need to HELP my self.  I just need to BE my self.  My complete self, whose very next task is to practice what I preach.

I’m not gonna lie to you.  It’s kinda scary.  If I practice what I preach, how far will it take me?


Photo: Self-Help – I Can’t Help Myself – Week 14 by wmpe2000

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ME with my own TV show??





Quite possibly…

I FINALLY did something other than talk about having my own TV show. Today I uploaded an entry to the “W” channel website. W is looking for a new expert. And that expert could be me, with your help.

Once the good folks at W verify my entry and post it live, you’ll be able to go to the W website and “rate the recruits” for the W Expert contest.

Here’s the URL: http://experts.wnetwork.com/Main.aspx

You can vote until March 8th at 10 a.m. The video should be up within the next few days.

The judges will take into consideration website user comments and ratings when making their decision about the Final 10.

I invite you to visit the site and rate my entry (hopefully with a high score!). And if you have any friends or family who’d like to have a say about new programs, let them know about the contest so that they can rate the recruits, too.

Special thanks to Dan and Mike for their skills and willingness to help “direct and produce” the amateur video for my entry!!

Here’s why I should be a W Expert:

Life can be challenging and stressful. As a W Expert, I’ll show you how to see and do things differently, make new choices and get the outcomes you want. It doesn’t have to be difficult. You have everything you need. I’ll help you see it, believe it and live it.

Like Thomas Edison said, “If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves.”

Join me… live the life you want, and astound yourself.


Artist: BooDilly

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