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Soar

Soaring EagleSeth Godin is brilliant. I’m sharing – with Seth’s permission – observations from his latest work, Icarus Deception (free PDF available online):

They told you to get your résumé in order, to punch your ticket, to fit in, and to follow instructions. They told you to swallow your pride, not to follow your dream.

They promised trinkets and prizes and possibly riches if you would just suck it up and be part of the system, if you would merely do what you were told and conform.

They sold you debt and self-storage and reality TV shows. They sold your daughters and sons, too. All in exchange for what would happen later, when it was your turn.

It’s your turn.

This isn’t a manifesto for other people. This is a manifesto for you. It’s a manifesto for anyone who has been overlooked or brainwashed or seduced into being invisible.

A revolution is here, our revolution, and it is shining a light on what we’ve known deep down for a long time—you are capable of making a difference, of being bold, and of changing more than you are willing to admit.

He goes on to very eloquently explain through analogy, using the myth about Icarus, how society has altered the myth by leaving out the second part of Icarus’s father’s instructions. He told him not to fly too close to the sun, AND he told him not to fly too low, too close to the sea, because the water would ruin the lift in his wings.

Seth’s point: We’ve been conditioned to NOT speak up, stand out, or rock the boat.

The danger: We’re flying too low. We’re settling for too little. We’re shortchanging ourselves. And by staying in our comfort zone, we’re shortchanging everyone whose lives we touch or could touch.

The reality: Whose comfort zone is it, anyway? Is it yours, or is it one you’ve adopted?

The strategy: Fly higher. Dry your wings. Soar.

The result: Success. Value. Happiness.

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Positive Anticipation

Martha Beck is a very insightful and amazing coach. I’ve read (and re-read) her books and follow her blog. She sees things objectively, and from a very realistic perspective.

She also has the uncanny ability to focus her advice and musings on whatever is holding me back or is my “obstacle du jour”.

When I received an alert for her most recent blog post “Enjoyment is in the Waiting”, I thought, “Yeah, right — not when it’s something that causes stress and anxiety.” As I was reading it, I realized that it was exactly what I needed to hear today. And that I was causing my unnecessary stress and anxiety.

I hope Martha’s post helps you breathe easier and relax your shoulders while you wait in positive anticipation of something really good happening.

Happy waiting!

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Life Rx from Everyone’s Favourite Doctor

Lately, I’ve been researching and reading a lot, preparing to establish a consulting practice as a management consultant/coach specializing in building capacity for change and changing the common-heard refrain, “Oh no, what now?!?” to “Bring it on!”

While most material on being the best “you” is very informative and applicable, it can also get a bit dry. And the stuff written for grown-ups by grown-ups is hardly ever light and fun.

So here’s a little change of pace.

I’ve always been a big Dr Seuss fan, so I think the infographic below is awesome! Lots of great lessons, presented in an easy-to-relate-to format.

(BTW: my favourite Dr. Seuss when I was younger was… wait for it… “If I Ran the Zoo”. I know, big surprise! More on this to come…)

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Today’s Lesson: Keep Your Eyes Fixed on the Road Ahead

So, I did it. I crashed into The Big Scary Wall of Self-Doubt instead of vaulting over it or crashing through it.

I’m in recovery now.

I’ve met with a few people who have given me some perspective and some ideas on how to get up, dust myself off, and keep working through my transformational journey.

Some of you may know that during my career, I’ve been a full-time employee and a consultant operating her own business. Both are very fine and noble ways to make a living and, obviously, the full-time route is a bit more stable and secure. But my passion for being a change broker and making a difference is what fuels me. So that’s the road I’ve been on in this current journey.

I want very much to take the entrepreneurial route again — I loved it, it fed my desire for challenges, it provided me a way to pursue my passion and it opened my eyes to all kinds of perspectives I didn’t have before. But, as Robert Herjavec of TV’s Dragon’s Den fame will tell you, it’s not for the faint of heart. In addition to having the drive, you need to be at ease with taking risks, willing to make tough decisions, put in all kinds of time and effort when needed, and stay focused.

I recently read Herjavec’s book Driven: How to Succeed in Business and in Life. As with many self-made successful entrepreneurs, he learned some very valuable (and sometimes tough) lessons throughout his life, starting when he was a 12-year-old immigrant from Croatia, to enjoying the life he has built for himself and his family and growing more businesses.

One thing his wealth has been able to do is satisfy his craving for fast cars. Herjavec raced his Ferrari in the Formula Vee (a class of racing for young and older non-professional drivers). In his book, he draws a compelling analogy between focus in business and focus on the racetrack:

Competitive racing teaches you one thing above all, and that’s the complex power of your mind. When it comes to survival instincts, the mind proves more powerful than the body. Here’s an example: you enter a corner at two hundred kilometres an hour and the car begins to spin. Ahead of you, as the car slides along the track, is a wall. You don’t want to hit the wall for a dozen reasons, ranging from losing the race to potentially losing your life. The normal human reaction is to look at the wall; the wall is a threat to be avoided at all costs. In racing, you are taught never to look at the wall, because if you do you will surely hit it, no matter how hard you try to avoid it. That’s because during the few milliseconds it takes to absorb the message – Omigod, I’m going to hit the wall! – your hands will freeze on the steering wheel.

Experienced drivers learn to avoid looking at the wall and fix their eyes instead on where they want to go, which is down the track ahead of them. In other words, you train your mind on where you want to go and not where you appear to be going. This sounds to me like a pretty good analogy for doing business in a competitive climate – look away from the danger and towards the opportunity. Or, if you prefer, keep your eye on your objective and avoid staring at the wall.

I read this passage a few times and realized that I’ve been staring at the wall with fear, worrying about crashing, instead of focusing on the road ahead. I have an arsenal of experience and expertise, I’ve run a consulting business before, and I’m told I’m pretty smart. So why am I letting worries, fears and silly reasons keep me from succeeding?

I’m focusing on the road ahead where I can do what I love, brake when I need to, take the curves as they come, and when I’m ready, open up and go full throttle towards the finish line.

Image: Pete Keen / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

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Monday

I’m not a morning person. It’s hard for me to get inspired and motivated, especially on a Monday that follows a sunny, active weekend.

Just now I was about to dig into my career transition “to do” list, when I couldn’t help but notice how beautiful my new scarf looked, casually draped over my purse and briefcase the way it landed when I put my stuff down on the desk. I bought my new favourite accessory on Friday — it was a cheap and cheerful impulse buy (yes, TR, I am still an active impulse buyer!). I was walking by a tiny store in the underground concourse at Bloor and Yonge and my eyes went directly to it. I felt happy just looking at it.

Sometimes it’s the little things that make the biggest difference.

When we recognize moments of inspiration, it opens up possibilities that lead to options, that lead to baby steps, that inevitably add up and lead to achievement.

Just like Mama said, “Lille bit by lille bit.”

Happy Monday!

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Lost and Found

I found this list of rules I developed in a file that I clearly haven’t opened for some time. The page is dated 1997. That shocked me. Looks like I’ve had these tidbits of wisdom for 14 years without realizing it.

Over the past few years, I’ve continuously gone back to the drawing board to ask questions about myself, to figure out what’s important, to know my values and how I want to live my life. I would’ve saved so much time and angst if I’d posted these rules in 1997 and referred to them daily.

The good news is two-fold:
1. Now that I’ve found The Rules again, I’m keeping them front and centre for reference as I move forward, and
2. It’s worth doing a decluttering, archeological dig in your own home – I’m motivated to keep purging the rest of my files to see what other gems I can uncover!

Stay tuned…

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ME with my own TV show??





Quite possibly…

I FINALLY did something other than talk about having my own TV show. Today I uploaded an entry to the “W” channel website. W is looking for a new expert. And that expert could be me, with your help.

Once the good folks at W verify my entry and post it live, you’ll be able to go to the W website and “rate the recruits” for the W Expert contest.

Here’s the URL: http://experts.wnetwork.com/Main.aspx

You can vote until March 8th at 10 a.m. The video should be up within the next few days.

The judges will take into consideration website user comments and ratings when making their decision about the Final 10.

I invite you to visit the site and rate my entry (hopefully with a high score!). And if you have any friends or family who’d like to have a say about new programs, let them know about the contest so that they can rate the recruits, too.

Special thanks to Dan and Mike for their skills and willingness to help “direct and produce” the amateur video for my entry!!

Here’s why I should be a W Expert:

Life can be challenging and stressful. As a W Expert, I’ll show you how to see and do things differently, make new choices and get the outcomes you want. It doesn’t have to be difficult. You have everything you need. I’ll help you see it, believe it and live it.

Like Thomas Edison said, “If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves.”

Join me… live the life you want, and astound yourself.


Artist: BooDilly

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